As a bride-to-be in 7 short weeks, I will tell you–matter of fact–I will not be throwing a bouquet. There are multiple reasons, all of which seem pretty obvious to me. Stay tuned, it’s not all bashing I do offer bouquet toss alternatives…
1. The bouquet is an expensive part of the day and in a lot of photos, I do not want to chuck it into the crowd!
2. I still think it’s pretty embarrassing to suddenly be asked mid-conversation (hey, that waiter is pretty gorgeous, right? ) to get up and pretend like you don’t mind looking ridiculous in front of a bunch of strangers!
3. There’s nothing more appealing to any single man at a wedding reception that your last minute date just caught a bouquet that predicts long lasting love and marriage bliss. Especially since you brought her as a favor to your boss at the last minute.
4. Think safety! No one needs a dozen single women jumping around the dance floor to “Single Ladies” (Uh oh oh) and risking a sprained ankle or broken nose. Plus, single women in their forties might not appreciate your 14 year old cousin catching the bouquet before they do.
Really, it seems like a clear choice to me. But I will say that it is a time honored tradition and some brides love making their single friends suffer. That being said, I have an alternative to the one reason that is fixable. Your wallet. Slightly embarrassing to admit but my bridal bouquet is going to set me back $90 big ones. Although I cut out a lot of wedding flowers in order to justify the gorgeous bridal flowers that I get to hold in my photos, $90 is still a lot to spend to chuck it into a crowd of adoring fans. So here are my three favorite alternative ideas to the bouquet toss:
Artificial flowers: Use a silk rose hand tie bouquet to toss into the crowd instead of your real flowers. That way your bouquet won’t get ruined and your girls still get to show of their catching skills. If you’re interested in this option, I suggest eliminating the expensive wedding party flowers and exchanging them for silk bouquets altogether. Your girls can take them home and incorporate them into their home decor.
Meaningful Giveaway: I love this option because it lets you incorporate your flowers into something meaningful and unique. You choose someone important to you on your guest list and you take the time to give them your flower arrangement. You can create a small simple speech or you can give them to her in private. While I suggest a grandmother or older relative who has been important in your life, you may choose a friend or significant role model who has helped you along the way. They will have something extra to cherish and remember the day with. With this option you can still throw a fake bouquet or opt out.
Get Lucky Approach: This is a playful way to make your single ladies not feel so picked out. Simple acknowledge that instead of doing a bouquet toss that will, undoubtedly decrease their chances of finding a man that night anyways, you’ve decided to give them another way to ”get lucky”. Instead put a bowl with scratch off lottery tickets on a table and tell them to go crazy trying to make some money. It’s a sure fire way to get them to admit their single status without the embarrassment. Plus, it raises their chances with the men as their dates are suddenly wealthier.